You Don’t Have a Time Problem

You have a self-leadership problem. It’s a familiar phrase: “I’d love to start that, build that, learn that, do that… I just don’t have the time.” A book. A podcast. A business. A new skill. A different life. The intention is there, but the follow-through isn’t. For a long time, I told myself the same story. I was busy. Productive, even. But I was not moving forward in the ways that mattered. My days were full, but my progress was not. What I eventually realized, rather uncomfortably, is this: The issue wasn’t time. It was how I was leading it. I didn’t have a “time” problem, I had a self-leadership problem. A Perspective I Couldn’t Forget Years ago, during my time in the fire service, I experienced something that reshaped how I think about time. That morning, we responded to a call where a woman was in labor. We arrived in the middle of it and helped bring a new life into the world. I witnessed that first breath, something very few of us ever see up close. Later that same day, we were called to a man in cardiac distress. Despite everything we did, we couldn’t save him. I watched him take his last breath. Two moments, separated by hours. One life beginning, and one ending. The realization that stayed with me was simple: Between those two breaths - that’s all the time we get. We don’t control how much of it we have. Only what we do with it. The Math Most of Us Avoid At some point, I stopped guessing about my time and started tracking it. What I found wasn’t dramatic, but it was revealing: An hour here on my phone. Two hours there watching something I wouldn’t remember the next day. On average, about three hours a day that weren’t intentional. That’s 21 hours a week. Over 1,000 hours a year. Put another way: more than four full months of 8-hour working days, quietly traded away. And still, I was saying I didn’t have time. The Shift That Changed My Approach Productivity advice tends to focus on efficiency like apps, systems, and optimization. But none of that matters if you haven’t made a more fundamental decision: What actually deserves your time? Because once you answer that clearly, the rest becomes less complicated. The shift is from managing time to leading it. Leaders don’t wait for time to appear. Leaders decide what matters, and they protect it. Three Practical Changes The changes that made the biggest difference weren’t complicated. 1. Decide what matters, clearly and intentionally. Not in general terms. Specifically. What are you trying to build? Why does it matter? If the answer is vague, the effort will be too. 2. Reduce what doesn’t truly matter to you. Don’t eliminate everything. Just be honest about what’s low-value and cut it back. Even one hour a day, reclaimed consistently, is meaningful. 3. Protect the time you create. This is where many people fall off. They find time, but they don’t defend it. It gets absorbed back into noise. A single protected hour, if used well, can change your trajectory faster than most of us expect. One approach that helped me was reframing urgency. If something truly mattered… if someone you cared about depended on the outcome… you wouldn’t negotiate with your time. You’d act on it.  If someone you love was injured, and the only way to get them healthy again was to accomplish your goal, you would work 24 hours a day until your mission was complete. But since it’s a mind hack, tell yourself that during those “protected” hours, you will accomplish everything that you possibly can as if this tragedy were true.  Then turn it back off in order to be present with family, relax, and rest. Because that level of intensity isn’t sustainable all day, every day. Thankfully, it doesn’t need to be. Because when it’s applied in short, focused windows, it’s extremely powerful. Treat part of your day like it matters more than everything else, because, in a sense, it does. Rethinking “Balance” There’s a lot of conversation about work-life balance, often framed as a trade-off. In my experience, it’s less about balance and more about alignment. Let that sink in. It's less about balance and more about alignment. When you’re intentional with your time: The difference isn’t in the number of hours. It’s in how deliberately they’re used. Read that again.  The difference isn’t in the number of hours.  It’s in how deliberately they’re used. A Better Question Instead of asking, “Do I have enough time?” a better question might be: Am I using the time I have in a way that reflects what I say matters? Because most of us don’t need more time. We need a clearer decision about how we’re spending it. And once that decision is made, the path forward tends to reveal itself, one hour at a time. Thank you for reading, as I hope this adds value to your day. 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